Find Your Voice: Lesson Two

Getting Started:

Name: Jacqueline

Age: Twenty One

Nicknames: Jax, JC


Color: Purple or teal

Book: Gone with the Wind

Hobby: photography

Food: fish, avocados, smoothies


Best Accomplishment: making it to my senior year of college

Worst Day: sometime during finals week

Longest Trip: Scotland (16 or 18 days)

Furthest from Home: Hawaii (apparently, Hawaii is further away than Scotland, who knew?)

Funniest Quote: “No Stick” (This is an inside joke with my family, for some context it has to do with hockey. I am literally laughing out loud remembering when this actually happened…)

Taking it Further

Although I took some of the previous questions out, I think that the answers above are just details of my life and are not singly important. The fact that I live in Missouri is not important in and of itself. But if you look deeper, it dictates other things that are important to me, such as where I go to college, my job, my friends, how close I am to my family, etc. The fact that my favorite colors are purple and teal don’t matter, but if you look at my choice in crafts, style, clothing, etc you will see these colors pop up over and over again. My age is also not that important, yet it dictates first impressions, places I can go, and what stage of life I am in. As you can see, the central parts of my life include little things that make up my day-to-day life: people, jobs, thoughts, interactions, and any other activities. On a daily basis, the things above do not matter and normally slip my mind for long periods of time; it is how I react to each of those details that matter more significantly.

When I think of myself as a storyteller I think I explain the best using pictures (which is why I am out of media space on wordpress). I love photography and making books with pictures (scrapbook, online photobook, mini book, photo journal, what-have-you) to explain my favorite events and stories. I normally don’t mind writing little tid-bits and facts about things that happen, but it’s emotions that I can never seem to get out. And not only that but I struggle making it flow so people don’t feel 1) like they have to read every single word and 2) that it doesn’t catch someone off guard. What I mean by that is, if we are out to dinner and someone asks about my trip, I want to be able to pull out my scrapbook and let them read it without feeling like they might get emotional all over the table, because I would not be able to handle that. I think this brings up another issue that I really don’t know how to deal with emotions of others, so if I don’t share mine, they will be less likely to share with me. So what I need to do, is learn how to deal with that.

I want to be seen as someone with amazing stories, but nothing too over-the-top crazy. I want to be completely myself and I don’t really care if people judge me for it. I want to share stories of vacationing and big events, but mostly the little things. I don’t want to over-share to a point where people get fed up and I also don’t want to under-share either. I want to get in all of the details with out boring people to death. I think there is a very fine line between what people want to read and what they don’t and I am working on finding that.

The next question asks about my flaws and let me just say, I am so over this question (I say this in the nicest way possible). I am so over comparisons and society’s way of thinking that different = flawed. The definition of flawed is “A mark, fault, or other imperfection that mars a substance or object”. A dented table is flawed, a person is not. BUT–I would be the first to tell you that there are things I need to change about myself. There are plenty of things in my life that I am constantly working on and there are things that I have long since given up on. They vary from skills that others possess and I do not (singing, certain sports, emotions) to being more sympathetic and a little less honest. That being said, I don’t focus too much on these things.

Even though I am completely against self-hate and negativity, I’m not really the type to talk about the things in which I excel either. I find it pretty hard to distinguish between what I enjoy and what I am actually good at, but I’ll give it a try. I am good at being honest, though it is not always easy. I am good at having conversations, including those with people who do not have the same ideas or beliefs as my own. I am a hard worker and give 110% to everything I do. I have been told that I am loyal in friendships and that I am easy going. I have a creative eye and enjoy any type of craft. I am optimistic and I’m willing to stand up for anyone who deserves it. I am confident in myself and I strive to bring out the best in others as well as myself.

At the end of this lesson, I think I am starting to see a teeny-tiny glance into me and who I am as a storyteller. Already I know that I will always shy away from long emotional stories but I will never hesitate to tell the truth. I can tell that I will know what I want to say and the point that I intend to get across before I even start writing, but it will be words that limit me; so I will almost always use photographs. My stubborn side will always force me to go back and re-read and re-edit (a thousand times) and make sure that everything is perfect, even though it won’t be. I will hesitate to share what I’m writing, and will always do so first with someone I completely trust. It will be hard to press publish, but if it is important I always will.

7 thoughts on “Find Your Voice: Lesson Two

  1. Fantastic post, loving this. Your answers actually helped me understand some of the questions from the worksheet where my mind went totally blank. I can most definitely identify with a lot of the things you have talked about, and I do think you have put quite a bit of yourself emotionally into this post. Honesty is the way. :-)

  2. Love the paragraph that starts “Although I took some of the previous questions out, I think that the answers above are just details of my life and are not singly important. ” – thank you for taking that further than just the one-word answers. That paragraph is going to inspire me when I do Lesson Two!

  3. I love your thoughts on lesson two and can totally relate to your struggles with emotion in your storytelling. There are so many emotions bottled up inside me that I’m afraid to let out for fear that they will drive others away. I need to work on this. I would really like to find a way to bring out those emotions in my stories in a manner that will add human interest and realism to the experience without overwhelming the reader. Thanks so much for sharing!

  4. Awesome post! I really love how you talk about the “flawed” concept and how you are over the comparisons of what society deems flawed!! Good for you that you have the confidence you do, I am still working on that myself!

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